Congratulations for making it this far. Believe it or not, I will
have lost most of the visitors to this site, since I revealed the
first secret step towards public speaking success.
Why? Because I know how the ego ridden mind works. People won't
like me telling them that they just need to practice private
speaking and become an expert at that first.
they want me to tell them, is that there is single magic
technique, that will destroy all their worries and magically
transform them, into a super speaker who gets a standing
ovation every time.
And when they hear that they need to do something as simple as
talk to themselves, they just reject it as too trivial, and their
ego's will just keep giving them a ton of reasons not to even
Well done for getting this far
If you're still here, then that's a good sign. It means you
accept that you need to fight your ego and start with
the basics. You may have even given the first exercise a go. If
you haven't, then don't worry, as I'm not expecting you to have
done. Just know that it will have to be done before you move on
I'm now going to reveal to you, the next step towards your
Talking to a critic
This step is more difficult. Not the act of actually doing it,
but finding someone who will be the most useful for you. I.e.
someone who will tell you what's right and wrong with your
The reason this step is tricky, is because you need to find
someone who gets the balance between encouragement and criticism
This is the task that I personally found particularly tough.
When I first started (before I even attempted to speak
privately) I would try to give presentations in front of my
What did they do?
Of course they just kept telling me how great I was, despite the
fact that I couldn't complete a sentence out loud. (This is why
I generally advise against family members, for the reason that
Yes men are NO GOOD to you
I then tried it with some friends, they were no better. In
fact one of them just treated it like a joke and didn't take it
at all seriously. Needless to say he's no longer a friend.
Later however, I did find a friend who was already quite a good
speaker. He told me straight that I needed to go back to basics
and practice by myself. (The private speaking techniques I
covered on the previous page)
Once I became a good private speaker, I then contacted him again
and did the same thing (my nerves were much less, than when
I first spoke in front of him). He was amazed at my progress but
he still told me where I needed improvement (It's amazing what
you miss when you're speaking to yourself).
The other extreme - The overly critical
I've not really had too much experience with people who are too
critical, but we all know what they're like. The kind of people
who just tell you how bad it is and make you feel really
uncomfortable and like you're being heavily judged. They just
shoot you down at every opportunity (and are proud of it). You feel under so much
pressure that you just want it to end.
No good at all. Useful constructive criticism is the key in a
good critique. Not the destructive soul destroying type.
Please watch this video for more details of this step
You now know more than the vast majority of wannabe public
speakers out there and if you actually do the two exercises
that I've showed you, you'll soon be well on the way to speaking
success. But there's more....